Yesterday, I was talking with a close friend about the correlation between my social dillema and dating. When I say social dillema, I'm referring to my difficulty to make friends. This isn't something new. For many years now, after moving around so much, this problem has become something that I've grown accustomed to dealing with in the moving process.
I've analyzed to head-splitting extents why I have this problem. But now, I'm wondering if this problem has an affect on my love life. As it's been a while since I've really been with anyone, I find myself worrying about my ability to actually go out and find someone that's good enough for me. I've even entertained the idea of just going out and finding any random girl to prove to myself that I'm still capable. I mean, "If you don't use it, you lose it" right?
She (my friend) and I established that I'm the type of person that is satisfied with a small pool of friends. And after quickly assesing my personality, I'd say this is right. Knowing this, her solution for my problem was that someone (the right person) would come to me. I have my many doubts about this approach, but until I can muster up enough courage and get over my "anti-sociology", as my dad would say, it will have to suffice.
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I'd say your friend was spot on Nick. You've always been easily sastisfied with a small group of friends. There's no doubt about that, nor is that a problem. If you're going to base your self-worth on whether or not you're dating, that's where the problem lies. Trust me, I know it can make you feel insecure sometimes, but in the long haul, you're better off not dating then degrading yourself.
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